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Sexplain It: My Girlfriend Thinks I’m Gay, and I Can’t Convince Her Otherwise
I'm Zachary Zane, a sex writer and ethical manwhore (a fancy way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my fair share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and a bunch of other places, TBH). I'm here to respond your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because you know that already. Ask me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
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Dear Sexplain It,
I’m more effeminate than most men, and have been teased about being homosexual for so long that I actually thought I might be. A several years back, out of curiosity, I hooked up with a couple of guys, thinking I may be gay or bi. I didn’t enjoy it the way I appreciate being with women, and now I k Dear Ghosts of the Past, First of all, kudos to you for organism open and honest in sharing information about your sexual history with your partner. These topics can be very challenging to bring up, but you plowed through anyway and have maintained an uncover, honest, and patient stance in the face of her worries. Your concerns about her ongoing reactions are valid, but by understanding both your possess feelings and her feelings, you can determine the next best steps for your relationship. Before jumping into deep conversations with your girlfriend, asking yourself the following questions may aid you work out your own feelings on the matter: How do you feel about the reality that she can’t feel to get over this aspect of your sexual past? What goes through your head when she brings your past up or gives you a weird look? These feelings can help guide your response and possibly spark a meaningful discussion. It may also be kind to clarify with her exactly what's behind her concern. Is she c Using the term “partner” to replace boyfriend or girlfriend is widely suggested as a means to communicate more inclusively, allowing gay, lesbian, or bisexual people undergo more comfortable. When I use this term to point to to my spouse around straight people, I’m often asked, “why did you say your significant other instead of your girlfriend?” What’s the point? Let me explain the three main reasons why I have replaced boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife with partner. Using the term “partner”, particularly when probing about stranger’s boyfriend (“how long possess you been with your partner?” instead of “how extended have you been with your girlfriend?”), avoids the heteronormative assumption that the guy you are asking has a girlfriend/wife or the gal you are asking has a boyfriend/husband. If a person is straight, no harm done. A straight man may raise an eyebrow at the legal title partner instead of hearing you demand about his girlfriend, but that’s about it. A homosexual man, on the other Dear Amy: I&#;m a year-old male with a gorgeous, amazing girlfriend, a loving family, a flourishing career, and a house to call my own. Through college I had lots of girlfriends. From the outside it seems fancy the perfect picture. For the beat part of my life, I&#;ve been hiding thoughts and feelings about men, constantly brushing them off as a phase. The challenge is that year after year these feelings have begun to get stronger. I realized this year this wasn&#;t just a phase, but a real part of who I am, and I believe I need to adopt it. The problem I have is that even in this tradition of acceptance and openness I cannot get over the mind of hurting those around me by admitting to these feelings. My sex life with my girlfriend has slowly fizzled over the last five years, so maybe this knowledge could bring some comfort to her, but also pain. Not to mention the challenges with my friends who include strong conservative views, or my father, who is old-school. I sense like I have to pick between throwing everything I own away or continuing to conceal and bury it. I lean
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Why I say “partner” instead of partner or girlfriend
1. It doesn’t offend anyone to say partner